ABOUT US
Voice of the Voiceless is a South African Advocacy Organization for a marginalized sexual minority group of people, known as Former Homosexuals.
It is a Christian human rights organization called into being to be a voice for these voiceless ones, advocating for their Constitutional rights and freedoms in all areas of society.
It has been founded on the authority and instruction found in Proverbs 31:8...
" Speak up for people who cannot speak for themselves. Protect the rights of all who are helpless."
Former Homosexuals are better known by the term Ex-gays, which is a culturally and officially recognized term. Former Homosexuals can be defined as people who although they had/have
same-sex attraction, believe that their biological design tells them who they are and that sexual orientation can change, and they do not believe it to be innate.
Many have experienced complete sexual orientation change, while some still have unwanted same-sex attractions and choose to live lives of chastity due to personal convictions they hold dear.
From the outset it needs to be made clear that being a former homosexual does not equal being heterosexual. It is a distinct sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation is that part of a human being that directs his sexuality towards another person, and displays itself psychologically, physiologically, behaviorally, and socially. It can display itself through romantic and sexual attraction, desire, arousal, fantasy, behavior, and identity.
Former homosexuals find these displays toward members of the same sex as unwanted, and do not define themselves by it and do not use it as a criterion to identify themselves with.
If you are a South African Former Homosexual, you are welcome to join the Facebook group -
Voice of the Voiceless South African Ex-Gays
Voice of the Voiceless is not a counselling organization. For counselling referrals, you may contact Learn to Love.
It is a Christian human rights organization called into being to be a voice for these voiceless ones, advocating for their Constitutional rights and freedoms in all areas of society.
It has been founded on the authority and instruction found in Proverbs 31:8...
" Speak up for people who cannot speak for themselves. Protect the rights of all who are helpless."
Former Homosexuals are better known by the term Ex-gays, which is a culturally and officially recognized term. Former Homosexuals can be defined as people who although they had/have
same-sex attraction, believe that their biological design tells them who they are and that sexual orientation can change, and they do not believe it to be innate.
Many have experienced complete sexual orientation change, while some still have unwanted same-sex attractions and choose to live lives of chastity due to personal convictions they hold dear.
From the outset it needs to be made clear that being a former homosexual does not equal being heterosexual. It is a distinct sexual orientation.
Sexual orientation is that part of a human being that directs his sexuality towards another person, and displays itself psychologically, physiologically, behaviorally, and socially. It can display itself through romantic and sexual attraction, desire, arousal, fantasy, behavior, and identity.
Former homosexuals find these displays toward members of the same sex as unwanted, and do not define themselves by it and do not use it as a criterion to identify themselves with.
If you are a South African Former Homosexual, you are welcome to join the Facebook group -
Voice of the Voiceless South African Ex-Gays
Voice of the Voiceless is not a counselling organization. For counselling referrals, you may contact Learn to Love.
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Andre Bekker's Testimony...
Here is a short version of my testimony...
"I grew up in a home, where my parent were devoted Christians who served the Lord whole heatedly. To the best of their ability they endeavored to bring myself and my siblings up in the ways of the Lord. While this was the case, at a young age I noticed that I have an extraordinary interest in persons of the same sex. Even in my fantasies the persons I was involved with were younger boys.
When I was about 12 years old, I befriend my younger brother’s friends. He is three and a half years younger than I am. It did not take long for these friendships to have sexual undertones. Before long it started to develop into more than just feelings and desires. Although no one ever in any way hinted to me that what I involved myself with, was unnatural and wrong, I did know deep within me, to feel sexually attracted to a person of the same sex was wrong and unnatural.
As I got older I observed that other boys my age started feeling attracted to girls, but my attractions got more stronger for boys. Big was my dismay when I started realizing that my orientation is to younger boys. I thought it would change by the time I left school just to find that I experience an aversion to older guys. The older they were the more aversion I felt. The age group I felt oriented too, has stagnated between the ages of 10 to 20. However, the older guys had to appear young and innocent.
It would be many years later that I have learned that to be attracted to a person of the same gender was a homosexual sexual gender orientation. I also learned that the gendered person to whom I was attracted to, had an age and, that it was called an sexual age orientation. This is called a chronophilia, a term coined by Money[1]to refer to variations in sexual age interests. I learned that the male persons I was attracted to, could be divided in age categories with names attached to each of these categories.
Because my sexual age orientation could be to guys as young as 10 years old (prepubescent children), I fitted into the category of a pedophile. But I could also have been classified as a hebephile, because my orientation was also to pubescent boys between the ages of 11 to 14. Further more, I could also been classified as a ephebophile, having been attracted to post-pubescent guys who are not yet sexually mature, between the ages of 15 to 20.
If ever there was a person that could have been referred too as a marginal figure, it was me. It did not take me long to discover that homosexuality places a person on the fringe of society. Even more so if you have a sexual age orientation to young boys and teens. I discovered that most people having a young sexual age orientation, would never publicly admit their sexual age orientation. It was much safer to hide behind their sexual gender orientation.
God however, caused a turning point in my life, and I have all reason to believe it was because of the prayers of my mother. It was 10 September 2001 and I was 34 years of age, working as a skills trainer at a children’s home. I never worked night-shift but because of a staff shortage I was requested to work night-shift that particular night.
I finished my shift the next morning and as I got home I received a phone call from the children home’s principal. He informed me that he wishes to pay me a visit and asked if he can come over. I agreed and on his arrival he informed me that one of the children complaint that I have sexually molested him while I was on night duty. I was given notice that I am suspended while the matter is under investigation.
I was suspended for six weeks, when one day I was ordered to the principals office, having been informed that the matter will be handed over too the police. I experienced in that moment my worst nightmare to come true. I always feared that I will one day have to face the law.
Having arrived at the principal’s office I waited for two hours before the detective came from the principal’s office and introduced himself to me. He then continued by telling me that the boy has confessed to them that he has lied and that I have never sexually molested him. I felt relieved and at the same time grateful because I saw this event as a wake up call for me to sort out my life, which at that stage was in shambles without purpose and no joy.
I looked for help in South Africa, but could not find any. Eventually, I contacted organizations in America of which one responded. It started an initial 4 year journey, receiving psycho-therapeutic help while I also turned to God, were born again and through my relationship with Him experienced the Holy Spirit’s powerful transforming, mind renewing power working in me, and things started to change.
Progressively shifts started to take place in my mind, emotional pain got healed and guilt and shame were dealt with. Big shifts took place in my identity while I found my identity more and more in Christ. In 2004 I met my wife and this year we are married for 15 years.
What is extraordinary is that my wife was a widow with two teenage boys. In all sincerity I asked God if He knew what He is doing to let me marry a woman with two boys. I asked God if He has forgotten from where I am coming from. It was in this that God showed Himself mighty. God’s work in my life was such that not only did my exclusive gender homosexual orientation changed to where I started experiencing heterosexual attractions towards my wife, but also my exclusive sexual age orientation to young boys/teens changed to an adult woman.
It meant so much to me that God have entrusted me with my two sons.
Activists, through science, psychology and psychiatry tries to convince the world that it is impossible to change sexual gender orientation and sexual age orientation, arguing that a person is born that way, but God, above all doubt proofed them wrong.
I am still in the furnace of my Master, to be formed daily more and more in the likeness of His image. Of this I am convinced: “When I look back and wonder how I ever made it this far, you would realize it is not that I have been clever, but God has been wise. Not that I have been strong, but God has been mighty."
"Not that I have been consistent, but God has been faithful."
"I call it GOD’S AMAZING GRACE!"
AMEN!!!
"I grew up in a home, where my parent were devoted Christians who served the Lord whole heatedly. To the best of their ability they endeavored to bring myself and my siblings up in the ways of the Lord. While this was the case, at a young age I noticed that I have an extraordinary interest in persons of the same sex. Even in my fantasies the persons I was involved with were younger boys.
When I was about 12 years old, I befriend my younger brother’s friends. He is three and a half years younger than I am. It did not take long for these friendships to have sexual undertones. Before long it started to develop into more than just feelings and desires. Although no one ever in any way hinted to me that what I involved myself with, was unnatural and wrong, I did know deep within me, to feel sexually attracted to a person of the same sex was wrong and unnatural.
As I got older I observed that other boys my age started feeling attracted to girls, but my attractions got more stronger for boys. Big was my dismay when I started realizing that my orientation is to younger boys. I thought it would change by the time I left school just to find that I experience an aversion to older guys. The older they were the more aversion I felt. The age group I felt oriented too, has stagnated between the ages of 10 to 20. However, the older guys had to appear young and innocent.
It would be many years later that I have learned that to be attracted to a person of the same gender was a homosexual sexual gender orientation. I also learned that the gendered person to whom I was attracted to, had an age and, that it was called an sexual age orientation. This is called a chronophilia, a term coined by Money[1]to refer to variations in sexual age interests. I learned that the male persons I was attracted to, could be divided in age categories with names attached to each of these categories.
Because my sexual age orientation could be to guys as young as 10 years old (prepubescent children), I fitted into the category of a pedophile. But I could also have been classified as a hebephile, because my orientation was also to pubescent boys between the ages of 11 to 14. Further more, I could also been classified as a ephebophile, having been attracted to post-pubescent guys who are not yet sexually mature, between the ages of 15 to 20.
If ever there was a person that could have been referred too as a marginal figure, it was me. It did not take me long to discover that homosexuality places a person on the fringe of society. Even more so if you have a sexual age orientation to young boys and teens. I discovered that most people having a young sexual age orientation, would never publicly admit their sexual age orientation. It was much safer to hide behind their sexual gender orientation.
God however, caused a turning point in my life, and I have all reason to believe it was because of the prayers of my mother. It was 10 September 2001 and I was 34 years of age, working as a skills trainer at a children’s home. I never worked night-shift but because of a staff shortage I was requested to work night-shift that particular night.
I finished my shift the next morning and as I got home I received a phone call from the children home’s principal. He informed me that he wishes to pay me a visit and asked if he can come over. I agreed and on his arrival he informed me that one of the children complaint that I have sexually molested him while I was on night duty. I was given notice that I am suspended while the matter is under investigation.
I was suspended for six weeks, when one day I was ordered to the principals office, having been informed that the matter will be handed over too the police. I experienced in that moment my worst nightmare to come true. I always feared that I will one day have to face the law.
Having arrived at the principal’s office I waited for two hours before the detective came from the principal’s office and introduced himself to me. He then continued by telling me that the boy has confessed to them that he has lied and that I have never sexually molested him. I felt relieved and at the same time grateful because I saw this event as a wake up call for me to sort out my life, which at that stage was in shambles without purpose and no joy.
I looked for help in South Africa, but could not find any. Eventually, I contacted organizations in America of which one responded. It started an initial 4 year journey, receiving psycho-therapeutic help while I also turned to God, were born again and through my relationship with Him experienced the Holy Spirit’s powerful transforming, mind renewing power working in me, and things started to change.
Progressively shifts started to take place in my mind, emotional pain got healed and guilt and shame were dealt with. Big shifts took place in my identity while I found my identity more and more in Christ. In 2004 I met my wife and this year we are married for 15 years.
What is extraordinary is that my wife was a widow with two teenage boys. In all sincerity I asked God if He knew what He is doing to let me marry a woman with two boys. I asked God if He has forgotten from where I am coming from. It was in this that God showed Himself mighty. God’s work in my life was such that not only did my exclusive gender homosexual orientation changed to where I started experiencing heterosexual attractions towards my wife, but also my exclusive sexual age orientation to young boys/teens changed to an adult woman.
It meant so much to me that God have entrusted me with my two sons.
Activists, through science, psychology and psychiatry tries to convince the world that it is impossible to change sexual gender orientation and sexual age orientation, arguing that a person is born that way, but God, above all doubt proofed them wrong.
I am still in the furnace of my Master, to be formed daily more and more in the likeness of His image. Of this I am convinced: “When I look back and wonder how I ever made it this far, you would realize it is not that I have been clever, but God has been wise. Not that I have been strong, but God has been mighty."
"Not that I have been consistent, but God has been faithful."
"I call it GOD’S AMAZING GRACE!"
AMEN!!!
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